As I sit in an office full of absolutely nothing while I write this I can’t help but think about the similarities of this space and the house I rented 7 years ago after getting a divorce in 2010. Much like that house this office that I am sitting in right now has blank white walls and bare floors. The trusty combo of a tv tray and folding chair serves as my swiss army tool and multi-tasks as a work space, book shelf and a table (7 years ago it also served as an ace space for Batman action figures to battle it out with armies of My Little Ponies). Aside from the blank walls, the tray/chair combo and the smell of someone else’s life lingering in the air the biggest similarity that this office has with that house is that it is a very real, tangible and obvious sign of drastic change and new seasons in life. There is no way to hide the fact that my world is changing and that life is issuing a challenge that I am deciding to answer with everything that I have. Unlike 7 years ago when changes were forced upon me and I had to pick myself up off the floor, today I am choosing what changes are going to take place…I am stepping out of my comfort zone and taking a leap of faith to follow the path that God has set in front of me.
If we are going to be honest, which is how I like to approach life, change is scary and anyone that tells you otherwise is full of something that you should fertilize your yard with. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that change isn’t exciting because it is….as is bull riding, cage fighting and skydiving. The thing with changes is that they are going to happen, they are a fact of everyone’s life. Our entire existence is a revolving door of experiences, relationships and responsibilities that are out of our control that inevitably bring a multitude of changes. So even though they are scary it is in our best interest to learn to embrace and make the most of them because we can all agree that it’s easier to drive a car than to get hit by one…amiright?
Embracing the changes and making the most of them has led me here. Led me to a beautiful wife, two awesome kids, three amazing step daughters and a great home in a wonderful neighborhood with fantastic neighbors. Led me to become an accomplished and respected neon glass bender and artist. Led me to becoming a trained professional life coach that focuses on families, marriages, men and leadership. Those were the areas that I had failed in years ago in my first marriage. Areas that became a major focus in my life because I didn’t want to repeat my past mistakes or waste the pain that I had felt because of them. My heart broke for others that had gone through, were going through or would go through what I had went through. God put those men on my heart and gave me a way to make a positive difference in the life of others.
It’s ironic that this empty office and it’s unbridled potential reminds me so much of an empty house that at the time felt like a prison I was sentenced to for a miserable failure. I used to have to be forced to change and spent all my energy just trying to not get swept away but now I spend the majority of my time making new things happen and welcoming changes and the challenges that they present. This office is a symbol of that mindset. A symbol of freedom and embracing the changes in front of me in a very aggressive and exciting way. It will not have blank walls and bare floors for long!
If you are staring into the glowing red eyes of a life change today I would suggest that you get assertive with it. Make the phone calls, have the hard conversations, ask for help, risk sounding like an idiot, risk being smarter than you thought you were, risk seeing what others see in you, risk changing what others see you as….trust that Romans 8:28 is true and that God works all things for the good of those who believe.