What it means to be a father is changing. For the last 50 years or so the public perception of fathers and husbands has seemed terribly disjointed and left many of us terribly confused. Father used to know best, then fathers became fat, drunk, and dumb and now fathers seem to be turning into emasculated co-parents that are simply the “coke zero” of the parenting equation…they’ll do in a pinch but aren’t quite the “real thing”. That is, of course, nonsense. The truth is that fatherhood is changing rapidly due to more and more men becoming stay at home dads, many more are becoming single fathers and many are feeling the pressure of a society that requires them to be continually “plugged in” to successfully provide for their families . Unfortunately resources are scarce for fathers and there are even less for single fathers. It sometimes seems that our culture is too busy pointing out the failures of men rather than offering any real help or resource.
It can be tough to forge ahead and be a leader of a family when you are constantly perceived as incapable, and unfortunately a lot of men decide that these views are prophetic and just give up or fall in line. The truth is that families need strong men…many families would even settle to have an adequate man around. While there are many men fighting as hard as they can to be strong fathers and husbands there are some that decide they don’t even want to try. For those that are trying, I applaud and respect you, to those who have given up or walked away I’m asking you to reconsider…you are important to your families, especially your children.
Here are a few findings from research done about the importance of the involvement of fathers….(taken from http://www.fatherhood.gov)
- The presence of a responsible father promotes improved academic performance and reduces disciplinary problems among children.
- Children who have experienced high father involvement show an increase in curiosity and in problem solving capacity. Fathers’ involvement seems to encourage children’s exploration of the world around them and confidence in their ability to solve problems.
- Girls with strong relationships with their fathers do better in mathematics.
- Children with actively involved fathers display less behavior problems in school.
- Boys with actively involved fathers tend to get better grades and perform better on achievement tests.
- Highly involved fathers also contribute to increased mental dexterity in children, increased empathy, less stereotyped sex role beliefs and greater self-control.
That is why I started Torch Family Leadership…to help every husband and/or father to become more capable and more powerful leaders in their families. To show them how their love, support and leadership can have monumental power in the life’s of their families. To equip them to find strength in compassion, importance of integrity, value in responsibility and the power in leadership.
If you find yourself stuck or in need of some perspective on how to be a strong family leader let me help you! I am not only passionate about helping you become a great family leader but it is my calling in life….and I’m trained in how to do it as well.
I’m here to help. Let’s make it happen.